Marriage Counseling FAQ
Some of our most frequently asked questions about Marriage Counsleing
At Transformative Growth Counseling, we offer Marriage and Couples Counseling Services. We work with married couples no matter how long they've been together, and also with couples interested in marriage. You can also be in a relationship with someone who you are not married to, but still want to seek Couples or Marriage Counseling.
It's normal to be concerned that your therapist may be biased, or choose a favorite in Couples Counseling. It is the therapist's job to ensure that both you and your spouse feel heard and validated. It's also important to note that communication, active listening, and participation on the Couple's part greatly benefits both the patients and therapist.
Marriages can have complex issues that may lead to arguments and miscommunications. Marriage Issues are more common than you think, with about 44% of married couples that have gone through with Marriage Counseling.
As we mentioned earlier, Marital Issues are more common than you might think. Results of Marriage Counseling are very promising, with success rates in the high 70-80% range. 65% of all couples who went through with counseling felt that their relationship was "significantly improved" through treatment, and 75% of couples viewed themselves as "better off" after counseling.
Both you and your spouse can be involved in the Counseling process, from choosing a therapist to finding the treatment plan that works best for both parties. At the first session, your therapist will begin by asking informational questions such as : why are you here, who suggested therapy, and background information on the relationship. After your therapist establishes the issues and causes, they will begin to develop a treatment plan.
Both couples must be fully invested in their therapy, and both have shared goals in order for Marriage Counseling to be effective.
Make sure your schedule is cleared before your first appointment, so that you can fully dedicate focus into the session. You may also feel emotionally tired after the first session, so rest afterwards.
Before starting treatment, it is extremely helpful to have planned goals : what do you want to achieve through therapy? Some examples are :
- How do we want to grow as a couple?
- Do we need to work on our conflict style?
- Do we need to work on listening and validating each other?
- Attachment Based Therapy : The goal in this method is for couples to identify maladaptive patterns within the relationship that are interfering with secure bonds and attachments.They will learn and utilize techniques to heal or create safe and secure attachments within the relationship.
- Narrative Therapy : Revolves around people describing their problems in narrative form and rewriting their stories. Can help them see that no single story can possibly encapsulate the totality of their experience.This therapy helps couples who feel like the relationship is failing a part due to both partners.
- Gottman Method: Popular method for couples/marriage therapy.Technique is designed to help couples deepen their understanding of one another while managing conflict in their relationship.
- Solution-Focused Therapy : This model is only considered when the couple comes in if they are experiencing a particular issue or want to work toward a specific goal.This practice is a short-term goal-focused evidence-based therapeutic approach which helps the clients change by constructing solutions rather than dwelling on problems.